Every time when I find myself alone on Valentine's Day and it's almost often, I surf the web hoping to find kernels of wisdom to reflect on, to savor its inherent wisdom and if I'm inclined, energize myself to practice it. Sadly though it often ends on the wishing side with no practical application. Nonetheless, here is the second installment of life lessons, the first installment was posted in another site.
1. When you lose, don't lose the lesson. We will not always be winners. It's true, take it from me, that there will always be superior or inferior persons than us. We will not be less the person we like ourselves to if we accept our limitations. However let's not stop there: We struggle once more, we fight again and again. If we lose, we lick our wounds but not before encoding in our "hard disk drive" the area and situation where we faltered.
2. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions. We must earn for ourselves the respect due to us since respect is earned not imposed upon anybody. How do we merit respect for ourselves? First by accepting ourselves, warts and all. Second forgiving ourselves of miscues, intentional mistakes, and broken promises. Third and last, let's not forget the One above, we seek help from Him for strength and resolve.
3. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship. In my book, friendship is a situation of give and take but giving more than taking is highlighted. In the wake of a dispute let us put premium on the joys of being friends rather than dwell on the hurt and remorse of being separated and not being in good terms with a good friend.
4. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. We marvel at the latest software which has the capability of diagnosing and, to a certain extent repairing itself. Now is it a big deal that the moment we are jolted to the reality that we made a faux pas, take the necessary steps to remedy it ?
5. Smile when picking up the phone or the headset when chatting. The caller will hear it in your voice or see it on his end on your face. Wearing a smile is a nonverbal type of communication, the shift in our facial muscle and vocal chords convey the emotion of joy, of delight and of cherishing the moment.
6. Marry someone you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other. The worst place to be when you're old is an empty room where the only warm body is you. The joy of older people is togetherness with others, most are not choosy, they can't afford to be.
7. Spend some time alone. Time to find your inner self, time to regroup, and time to replenish mental energy. Most often in the rat race that we call employment, our time is consumed by catering to others, paying attention to this, putting concentration on this that at the end of the week we just feel bamboozled. Now is the time to give quality time to ourselves.
8. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values. We have heard it all before: everything changes except change; on the other hand, we're also aware of phrases such as time-tested values, values that withstood the test of time and all similar motherhood statements. Most managers hate change because of its unpredictability and no manager is comfortable with so many unknowns that they can't seem to control; corollarily, our friends and loved ones like to see consistency in us. Change often we must, especially underwear but let us continue to cherish and live positive values.
9. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. The pregnant pause is better but silence in the time of peace is the best.
10. Trust in God, but lock your car. The logic is much similar to, "In God we trust, others pay cash."
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